2.) Briefly outline an example of collaborative conflict resolution that you have engaged in. Contrast that with competitive conflict. Which was more satisfying to you? To the other party?
Collaborative conflict: A time I have engaged in collaborative conflict resolution was when my group members for a school project were on a deadline. We had trouble finding certain times to meet up and would always post pone the work week after week. When the due date was approaching within a few days, we were all extremely panicked and scared of what had to be done in order to complete the project. Everyone had to sacrifice their work/school schedule so that we can come together as a group and discuss what our further actions would be in order to complete this project. Luckily, being in a face-to-face meeting with one another allowed the communication to go smoothly and we were able to disperse the work amongst each other. During our meeting, we all talked about what we're good at, what we're comfortable with and what tasks must be completed by each person. Collaborative conflict resolution came to play because we were all discussing together in order to reach a positive solution for our project. Without collaborative conflict resolution, we probably would've failed the project if someone in the group had directed and assigned work that we weren't able to do or felt comfortable doing. Together as a group, we were able to get all our work together and turn the project in on time. We all had a great feeling of success that we were able to figure this out together and find a way to succeed.
Collaborative conflict resolution is explained as a win-win type of strategy for any kind of group. It takes a lot of time and energy because it's seen to be one of the best ways to resolve important conflicts. This type of conflict resolution requires participation from all group members to share, think, decide and figure out as a group how to create a solution. "Collaboration is less likely to result in destructive conflict when it is done fairly and when all members feel empowered through the process" (Sherblom, 208). The author explains this process as most helpful and effective because everyone in the group is able to share their view points on the issue and give their ideas together in creating a solution.
Competitive conflict: Competitive conflict occurs when there is a win-lose situation. This can either become very destructive or very helpful depending on the situation you and your group are put in. Healthy competition can be a result of competitive conflict if you are striving for the best for both you and your group members. Amongst all the different types of competition, conflict will most likely rise if you are self-involved. Competitive conflict is beneficial in many ways if it is used in the correct manner. Using competitive strategies should only be used within a group when everyone has a mutual understanding of the limits and "rules of the game". If these rules and regulations aren't understood, the competition can only hurt yourself and the members of the group. It can eventually lead to people attacking one another in order to "win" the competition. "The key to constructive resolution of conflict resides, finally, in maintaining mutual respect among the group members themselves regardless of the immediate issues in conflict" (Sherblom, 212). Competitive conflict should only be used if the respect is mutual amongst all group members. I believe that the author warns us that this type of conflict can go either really good or really bad depending on the understandings per group. It's always better to be safe than sorry when dealing with competition which is why this type of conflict can become destructive rather than lead the group to success.
Through my personal experiences, I believe that both types of resolutions work depending on the situation. I personally like collaborative conflict resolution because it involves a team effort to reaching success. As all group members work as a team, we are able to encourage one another because we all have the same goals. My experience with my group members for our school project was a perfect example of using collaborative resolution. Without the encouragement and communication between me and my group members, we would have never been able to find a solution to the problem. I believe that multiple ideas are better than just your own, which is why I see collaboration more effective rather than competition. Competition can help too, but I feel it's too risky when dealing with groups. As a group, everyone should have a say in the decision making process which ultimately leads to success and solutions.